Conscious Intelligence® describes the elevation above the Victim-Survivor Paradigm. Liberating yourself from the paradigm is to Prevail OVER your circumstances

VICTIM SURVIVOR PARADIGM AND WHY IS IS IMPORTANT TO LIBERATE YOURSELF FROM IT.

Last Thought Leadership, We discussed that we can not control our circumstances; What we can control is how we conduct ourselves within them- and when we conduct ourselves optimally we are said to have grace, to be accessing conscious Intelligence.

We are not the devastation a metaphorical or literal tornado leaves behind. Well what OF the destruction?  An event or person who has harmed you? What about victimization?  Many who do self work say, don’t be a victim, … I’m the survivor… but Conscious Intelligence® invites you to consider… What did you survive? Victimization. You are still stuck in the Victim/ Survivor paradigm.

EVEN IF you are winning, like it is a game. You are still INSIDE the game, participating- perhaps you are winning, but you are still inside it!

OK so how do we extract ourselves from it?  By Prevailing. Elevating above the circumstances, above the game- We LIBERATE ourselves .

HOW? BY making the distinction :  Victim Survivor IN VS Prevailing OVER. But the game is Not just me- there are others we have make a full departure from – the perpetrator.  Yes, in prevail there is compassion. You have to not only forgive yourself, but forgive them too.

HOW do you forgive and accept someone who did such aweful things?  Such Tresspasses?  Well , by understanding there is a Distinction:   You can Forgive and Accept w/o Condoning -Acceptance is THE necessary part of grieving… recall the grieving process? 5 steps. Acceptance is the final step.

Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression, Acceptance…

… we MUST get there or it evolves to debilitating- stuckness, dwelling, this stops the natural process and dis-ease sets in- stagnation- psychological constipation…

You’ve  seen people like this-  a bitter person- yeah, they’re still angry that their spouse cheated on them- oh that’s terrible, how long ago? 10 years ago… they’re stuck – Evolving through Acceptance is paramount- the last of the 5 stages. IF NOT – Claws remain in you, this presents as Resentment –

Quote- Resentment is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die. Vengence, revenge, hate, animus- these don’t hurt them, it degrades and debilitates YOU. Prevailing OVER the circumstances , liberating yourself from the entirety of the victim/survivor paradigm and the circumstances that had NOTHING to do with you personally, that you had no control over.

Being in control is learning how to let go of the things you can’t control – the tornado intersected with your life and made a mess of your house- it doesn’t define you- HOW you make the repairs and move onward, upward, dictates your trajectory to prevail above;  

Which brings us full circle:  We are not our circumstances, we are not the devastation that the tornado leaves behind, unless we allow it to be OR we don’t know the distinction. We get to create what we carry inside of us, HOW we conduct ourselves, who we are being- We are NOT our circumstances, and to learn how to conduct ourselves optimally becomes the map, the imprint on the life we live into, and

What it is to Access Conscious Intelligence®.